Awkward Relationships Created in College

After going to college for quite some time, I have noticed that there are many different levels of relationships you make with the people around you. Here are the top ones that I have noticed (and caused) on my own college campus.

Continue Reading>>

Why 80% of Relationships Don't Work Out in College

To start off, I know that statistic that says 70% of people in a relationship coming out of college get married, BUT that means that you need to be IN a relationship for that to work. When you start going out with somebody in college so many things run through your head, it almost starts to hurt. I'm going to let you know a few things that just don't let a relationship work during your four years in college.

Trust
Trust is always the most important thing in a relationship, and it should be the first thing you achieve when you start dating a person. If you don't trust your partner as soon as he/she leaves your eyesight, you have a BIG problem. You need to be able to trust someone who will always be there for you; no matter what. You shouldn't be worrying who your boyfriend or girlfriend is talking to in class (it is okay to be a little jealous though).

The "What if" Factor
It's Friday night, your at party, and a cute guy or girl gives you the the "elevator look" (the look when someone looks you up and down with an interest). But wait, your in an exclusive relationship, so why are you even thinking about this situation? It's because we are curious and sexual beings and we can't help it. It is okay to look at the opposite sex, it's healthy, but when it comes to thinking a lot about it (which usually happens) is when it becomes a problem. You begin to think, "What if I had gone and talked to that cute guy/girl?" That is the question that messes with peoples heads the most, and excuse my language, but it's really, really SHITTY!

Freedom
When you meet someone in college you usually live very close, if not right down the hall from one another. This can get very unhealthy because you can get sick of someone very easily if they are around 24/7. What you really want are those butterflies in your stomach to NEVER go away. You should always look forward to seeing the person you most care about. If he or she is always around then you don't get to do the things you would usually do just chilling around by yourself. People need their alone time to think and continue their favorite hobbies what ever they may be.

Rumors
Need I say anymore than the title? I don't think so...

Long Distance Relationships
Most people have gone through one of these, and if not I'm sure you've been away from your significant other for a week or two. When it comes to these types of relationships visiting one another is SO important and communicating on a daily basis is a must (Not every five minutes though, that's a bit overkill). I take my hat off to people who are able to accomplish such a feat. Trust in this case is most important because you may never see who your partner hangs out with. You might hear them in the background when on the phone with them, and that can be very intimidating, but you must over look it.

My feeling about relationships in college is it's hard, very, very HARD. If I was given the chance to date the girls I did in my past years at college after I have graduated, things would be much different. Keep these things in mind next time you ask a girl or guy out, it might just help.

What do you think on the matter?

Cheers,

Matt

50 Simple Ways to Be Romantic

Ok, so maybe Valentine's Day isn't for another month, but that doesn't mean you can't show your partner some special attention now. In fact, I invite you to join me in this experiment. The plan is to show your love for your partner in a small and different way each day for a whole month and see what magic happens.

Here are a list of 50 things you can do to express your love. If things aren't good between you and your partner right now, this might be just the thing to slowly melt the ice between you both. If things are already good, this will strengthen your relationship further. By the way, there is nothing expensive on this list so there is no excuse not to give this a shot.

1. Write "I love you" in the steam on the bathroom mirror after he takes a shower.
   


2. Offer a back massage with some good smelling lotion.
   


3. Write a poem. Then use Google Translator to translate a poem into either French or Italian. Then handwrite it out with the translation on the back side. Or better yet, greet your partner at night and read it to them with passion and then hand them the translation.
   


4. While in public, declare "I love you, Matilda!" (not Matilda, but your partner's name.)
   


5. Make a CD with a few songs that are meaningful to your relationship.
   


6. Invite him to take a bath complete with bubbles, champagne, candles, and maybe a little Barry White. (the music, not actually Barry White in your tub.)
   


7. Surprise her at work and take her out to lunch, maybe take-out food in the park or maybe to a little diner, for a midday romantic interlude.
   


8. Put together a little gift on his pillow: chocolate and a note that says "Your love is like chocolate: sweet and delicious."
   


9. If your partner has a work presentation at an off site location, have flowers and a note of support delivered there.
   


10. Dedicate a song to him on the radio and send him an email telling him when to listen.
    


11. Cook a special love meal of your partner's favorite foods. Play his favorite music and turn the lights low for a romantic dinner.
    


12. Give your partner a pedicure and foot rub.
    


13. Send a text message or email that says "I love you!"
    


14. Mail a card and inside write down the top 10 things you love about your partner.
    


15. Give him a picture of you for his wallet that says "I love you."
    


16. Leave a love note in her car telling her to have a great day.
    


17. Carve your initials in a tree.
    


18. When your partner least expects it, give him a great big kiss, even if it's in public!
    


19. Go see a romantic movie, sit in the back row, hold hands, and cuddle.
    


20. King for a Day/ Queen for a Day. Declare that you will dedicate a particular day just to your partner to do whatever they want. Maybe start with breakfast in bed.
    


21. Buy a tree and invite your partner to plant it with you explaining that this tree represents the love between you both that will grow over the years.
    


22. In the midst of talking about how your days went, the chores that need to be done, etc. interrupt and say "I have something important to tell you. I love you and here's why." Then list 5 things (or more) that you really appreciate about your partner. Finish with a kiss and say, "Ok, so you were talking about the water heater."
    


23. Write an old fashioned love letter and mail it. Be romantic and lavish. Have some fun with it.
    


24. Before going to a party together come up with some secret code words you can use during conversation. You can be telling each other "I can't wait to get you alone tonight!" without anyone knowing!
    


25. Find a hotel that has a jacuzzi and book it for a one night getaway somewhere close but fun.
    


26. Place an ad in the classifieds declaring your love. Then take the newspaper, wrap it in a bow, and put a little note on it saying what page to look on.
    


27. Blindfold surprise. Blindfold your partner and drive them to the place where you had your first date, and have that date all over again!
    


28. Write a love poem for her.
    


29. Make an early valentine. Cut out some paper in the shape of a heart. Write something sweet on it in red and put it in her purse or his briefcase.
    


30. If your partner is going on a business trip secretly hide a love note inside their luggage.
    


31. Offer to help them with some dreaded chore they must complete and make it into a fun time maybe with some music. (cleaning out the basement, raking the leaves, shoveling after a big snow storm, giving the dog a bath, washing the car, etc.)
    


32. Do something romantic and spontaneous, like picking a flower and giving it to her right on the spot.
    


33. Invent a meal and name it after him or her.
    


34. Buy some body paint and write your love message on your body.
    


35. Record yourself reading a romantic love poem for your honey. Then give your partner a CD and tell them to play it in the car on their way to work.
    


36. Make a small postcard sized love collage. Then cover it with clear packing tape. Write a love message on the other side and mail it!
    


37. Keep a box with mementos of fun things you've done together. Later when the box is filled, arrange them on a board and have it framed.
    


38. Buy some underwear with special messages on it. Or buy your own and paint a special picture or message with fabric paints.
    


39. Make a donation to charity in the name of your love for your partner. Give your sweetheart a card that tells how grateful you are to share your life with her.
    


40. Keep a box with special cards, letters, photographs, and other mementos. On your anniversary or on Valentine's day take a little time to share fond memories together as you review the contents.
    


41. Create a mindmap of all the things you love about your partner and make it into a card.
    


42. Take a walk on the beach together. Run up ahead and write a message in the sand, and then call your partner to see what you "found."
    


43. Say "I love you" often, slowly, and with feeling.
    


44. Play hooky together. You work hard. Now today take a day to work easy at just sharing some fun time together. Call it an "I love you day."
    


45. Send an e-card to your sweetie to brighten his day. Here are free e-card resources: Apple iCards, BlueMountain, Hallmark.
    


46. Make little "I love you" posters with either crayons, markers, collage, paint, whatever. Post them in surprising places: the bathroom, the closet, the car, under her pillow, on her pillow.
    


47. Create a small website or blog dedicated to your partner. Write a short love message each day for a month...or forever.
    


48. Complete that chore or favor that your partner has wanted you to do for a long time.
    


49. Be super kind for a whole day. Act like you would with a new love, a child, or a frail person. Show lots of kindness, generosity, and love no matter what for a whole day.
    


50. Take an interest in your partner's interests. For a woman it might be watching a football game with your guy. And for men it might be going to see a chick-flick. Do it with a spirit of enthusiasm and love. Have fun.
    

via [DumbLittleMan]

How To Avoid Trapped Arm Whilst Cuddling In Bed

This is perfect for those damn small-ass beds they give you for your dorm room...



VideoJug: How To Avoid Trapped Arm Whilst Cuddling In Bed

15 Things Guys Wish Girls Knew

1) You look hot in running shoes and shorts. And that top thingy with the stripes.

2) If you think I’m speeding now, you should see me drive when you're not in the car.

3) Shopping is a chore, not an activity.

4) If you're truly interested in us, don't play hard to get.

5) My guy friends. Not only are they not negotiable, they’re your best sign that I’m not a whack job.

6) You can have sex with us any time you want. Seriously.

7) When the game is on, we will pay attention to you if you're nice about it. Bark, and we shut down.

8) Masturbation is merely practice for the big game. Encourage it.

9) When you get angry over some stupid little pointless thing, I question your intelligence.

10) If I offer my help while you're getting ready, it means you’re late.

11) Chicks who drink beer are hot. Better yet: chicks who drink beer and watch the game. Better still: chicks who buy us a beer during the game.

12) Being good in bed means a) enthusiasm; b) a sense of humor; and sometimes c) patience.

13) Make us laugh and we'll want to hang around.

14) Do not expect to have a conversation via text message unless you use the words "naked" and "waiting."

15) Anytime you cook for us, we're happy.

How to Be Just Friends With a Member of the Opposite Sex

With men and women intermingling in various spheres of life that were gender-specific in the past (home, the workplace, sports, school), people of the opposite sex are discovering new common ground and more reasons to be friends. But with the media constantly showing male/female friendships evolving into romantic relationships, many are convinced that a long-term, truly platonic friendship between individuals of the opposite sex just isn't possible. Romantic interest, physical attraction and sometimes, the jealousy of significant others can threaten to sabotage a cross-gender friendship. However, those risks can be circumvented by setting boundaries from the start. It's tricky, but it can be done.

See the steps on how to do it here.

9 Words Women Use

1. Fine: This is the word women use to end an argument when they are right and you need to shut up.

2. Five Minutes: If she is getting dressed, this means a half an hour. Five minutes is only five minutes if you have just been given five more minutes to watch the game before helping around the house.

3. Nothing: This is the calm before the storm. This means something, and you should be on your toes. Arguments that begin with nothing usually end in fine.

4. Go Ahead: This is a dare, not permission. Don't Do It!

5. Loud Sigh: This is not actually a word, but is a non-verbal statement often misunderstood by men A loud sigh means she thinks you are an idiot and wonders why she is wasting her time standing here and arguing with you about nothing. (Refer back to #3 for the meaning of nothing.)

6. That's Okay: This is one of the most dangerous statements a women can make to a man. That's okay means she wants to think long and hard before deciding how and when you will pay for your mistake.

7. Thanks: A woman is thanking you, do not question, or Faint. Just say you're welcome.

8. Whatever: Is a woman's way of saying F@!K YOU!

9. Don't worry about it, I got it: Another dangerous statement, meaning this is something that a woman has told a man to do several times, but is now doing it herself. This will later result in a man asking "What's wrong?" For the woman's response, refer to #3.

9 words women use via [plogzilla]

Present for my Girlfriend

College Kids,

My girlfriend's birthday is coming up and I want to make her something special. I'm tired of the usual Hallmark or Build-a-Bear gift. I want something creative and unique. Please Help!


George
19 years old
Atlanta, GA


George from Georgia,

I got something for you that is pretty cool in my book. I found it the other day and it seems pretty simple, yet the effect of it is superb.

Make here a spiral wire bead ring, wow thats a mouth full. All you need to do is go down to your local hardware store and maybe a trip to the hippie one as well (bead store).

How to make Spiral Wire Bead Ring

Have fun, and I hope she likes it!

The College Kids

Relationships

College kids,

How do relationships work in college? Is it just a bunch a random hookups? I recently got dumped, and I'm wondering if I'll find someone new easily at college. Also, what happens if you date someone for a really long time in college and then he dumps you? Is it easy to find someone when you've been at your school along time?

Erica
19 years old
New Jersey


Erica,

Relationships in college are well...unpredictable. It really all depends on the person and his/her background. I myself, came into college with a relationship that went on all freshmen year and through the summer. Right before school started she broke my heart.

The other college kids have been through their relationships as well. Chris Mc, is still in a very healthy relationship with a girl from back home. Stas has been through his as well, but he is very happy right now with the girl he is with.

I feel everyone has those random hookups in college though. The next morning you will wake up either saying "What did I just do?" or "YES!" You will get some hazing from your close friends, but they mean no harm, you will have the chance to do the same thing to them believe me.

As for getting dumped, it hurts. I know. It's something you need to get past and enjoy what you have while you have it. For instance, last year when I was having troubles with my ex-girlfriend, I lost all my good friends because I was a hermit in my own room. I regret doing that. Carpe diem (seize the day).

I hope everything works out for you.

Good luck,

The college kids